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Wednesday, 19 October 2011

THE MANTRAS OF MY LIFE!!!

LIFE IS ALL ABOUT LEARNING AND LESSONS.SOME LESSONS ARE PLEASANT AND SOME NOT SO, BUT IN THE END THEY ALL TEACH US SOMETHING. SOME LESSONS TEACH YOU HUMILITY,SOME TEACH YOU PRIDE,SOME KINDNESS AND SOME COURAGE. LIFE IS ALL ABOUT MAKING MISTAKES,ACCEPTING THEM AND MOVING ON! KEEP YOUR CHIN UP AND ENJOY LIFE FOR WHAT IT HAS TO OFFER-BOTH THE GOOD AND BAD-AND THEN YOU HAVE LIVED A LIFE!! ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT THIS (WHETHER GOOD AR BAD) TOO SHALL PASS. NOTHING IN LIFE IS PERMANENT SO HOLD ON TO THE JOYS AND HAPPY MEMORIES AND LET GO OF THE STUFF THAT GETS YOU DOWN.
               
                           "WAKING UP THIS MORNING, I SMILE,
                   TWENTY-FOUR BRAND NEW HOURS ARE BEFORE ME,
                    I VOW TO LIVE FULLY IN EACH MOMENT.............."
                           ---THICH NHAT HANH----

I AM ENUMERATING BELOW SOME OF MY LIFE'S MANTRAS.HOPE YOU FIND THEM USEFUL:--

FAMILY IS PRECIOUS/PRICELESS. THEY ARE THE ONLY CONSTANTS IN YOUR LIFE. EVERYTHING AND EVERYBODY ELSE IS VARIABLE-THEY WILL COME AND GO. SO LOOK AFTER YOUR SPOUSE,PARENTS,SIBLINGS AND CHILDREN. KEEP THEM CLOSE TO YOUR HEART. THEY WILL BE THE ONLY ONES WATCHING YOUR BACK WHEN THE STAKES ARE DOWN.

HAPPINESS LIES WITHIN YOU. ITS NOT A PARTICULAR SITUATION-ITS A STATE OF MIND. YOU CAN CHOOSE TO BE HAPPY OR UNHAPPY. EVERYTHING IN LIFE HAS A POSITIVE AND A NEGATIVE. ONLY YOU CAN CHOOSE TO SEE THE POSITIVE AND IGNORE THE NEGATIVE. YOU MAKE THAT DECISION. NO ONE ELSE CAN DO IT ON YOUR BEHALF.

NOT EVERYONE CAN BE YOUR FRIEND AND LIKE YOU. THE CONVERSE HOLDS TRUE AS WELL. THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN SAY OR DO TO FORCE SOMEONE TO LIKE YOU OR WANT TO BE WITH YOU. ACCEPT THAT FACT AND MOVE ON. SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO LIKE YOU. THRIVE ON THEIR POSITIVITY, LIVE-OFF THEIR FEEL GOOD VIBES.

YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON ON THE PLANET FOR YOU. YOU ARE THE PRESIDENT/MANAGING DIRECTOR/C.E.O OF YOUR OWN ENTERPRISE. YOU CALL ALL THE SHOTS. YOU ARE A V.V.V.V.I.P IN YOUR EYES. YOU DESERVE THE BEST. YOUR NEEDS AND DESIRES COME FIRST. GUILT,REGRET,PROCRASTINATION HAS NO PART TO PLAY HERE BECAUSE ONLY WHEN YOU ARE KIND TO YOURSELF THAT YOU CAN BE KIND TO OTHERS. ONLY WHEN YOU TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST WILL YOU BE ABLE TO TAKE CARE OF SOMEONE ELSE'S NEED. SO BE YOUR OWN MOST FAVORITE PERSON AS IMMORTALISED BY KAREENA KAPOOR IN 'JAB WE MET". AND REMEMBER IF YOU DON'T LOVE YOURSELF HOW DO YOU EXPECT OTHERS TO LOVE YOU?!! PLAIN AND SIMPLE LOGIC.

NEVER BE AFRAID OF YOUR INDIVIDUALITY OR THE PERSON THAT YOU ARE. ITS THAT WHAT MAKES YOU-YOU! YOU MAYBE A CONTRADICTING BUNDLE OF IDIOSYNCRASIES AND ECCENTRICITIES BUT THAT MAKES YOU UNIQUE AND SPECIAL. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY-THE WORLD BE DAMNED! NEVER COMPROMISE ON YOUR VALUES,IDEALS AND BELIEFS. KEEP REEVALUATING AND KEEP SEEKING WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.

FRIENDS AND FRIENDSHIPS NEVER LAST FOREVER (EVEN THOUGH WE MAY FERVENTLY HOPE THAT THEY DO). PEOPLE CHANGE,MOVE ON,DRIFT AWAY,GROW APART,FADE AWAY OR DIE OFF. BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND. RELY ONLY ON YOURSELF AND YOUR OWN RESOURCES.

FALL IN LOVE ONCE,TWICE,THRICE! NEVER BE AFRAID OF OR TOO CYNICAL OF OR BE TOO WORLDLY WISE FOR LOVE. AND BELIEVE ME YOU ARE NEVER TOO OLD TO FALL IN LOVE. ITS THE ONE ALL CONSUMING/ALL EMBRACING EMOTION THAT CAN LIFT YOU  AND YOUR SPIRITS UP AND MAKE YOU THE BEST PERSON THAT YOU CAN EVER BE. AS JACK NICHOLSON SAYS TO HELEN HUNT IN "AS GOOD AS IT GETS", "YOU MAKE ME WANT TO BE A BETTER PERSON". THATS WHAT LOVE DOES TO YOU. IT SOFTENS YOU,MELLOWS YOU AND MAKES YOU A KINDER AND GENTLER PERSON. SOMEONE ELSES HAPPINESS OR NEEDS/WANTS MATTER MORE THAN YOURS. WHETHER YOU LOVED AND GOT OR LOVED AND LOST, THE EXPERIENCE ITSELF WILL ALWAYS LEAVE YOU FEELING ENRICHED AND MORE COMPLETE. GIVE INTO LOVE TIME AND TIME AGAIN AND YOU WOULD HAVE LIVED AND NOT MERELY EXISTED!

PEOPLE DO NOT TALK/BITCH/GOSSIP ABOUT YOU EVEN  ONE FOURTH AS MUCH AS YOU THINK THEY DO (THAT MAYBE DISAPPOINTING TO SOME OF YOU BUT THAT'S THE TRUTH HONEY!). SO QUIT WORRYING AND OBSESSING. NO ONE HAS THE TIME TO PONDER ABOUT YOUR LIFE. THEY ARE TOO BUSY PONDERING OVER THEIRS. SO RELAX,TAKE A DEEP BREATH AND SMILE THAT THOUSAND WATT SMILE! ITS ALL GOOD! THIS POINT PARTICULARLY IS FOR MY DEAR FRIEND MRS. M.V.

ACCEPT THE FACT THAT YOU CAN EITHER COOK OR YOU CANT. DON'T AGONISE AND GIVE LONG DRAWN OUT EXPLANATIONS ON WHY THE RAJMA DIDN'T GALO OR THE CHICKEN CURRY IS BLAND!! ITS EITHER IN YOUR BLOOD OR NOT! GREAT COOKS ARE BORN AND NOT MADE! COOKING IS A CREATIVE,INSTINCTIVE,PERSONAL PROCESS AND CANNOT BE MASTERED FROM A COOK BOOK. SO IN SHORT I MAY BE UNABLE TO COOK LIKE TARLA DALAL OR MY DEAR FRIEND SONAM BUT I SURE AS HELL CAN WRITE!!!

LIFE IS NOT AND NEVER WILL BE EASY. THERE WILL BE DEBACLES,FAILURES,DISAPPOINTMENTS AND ILL HEALTH. STOCK MARKETS WILL PLUNGE AND THEN BOUNCE BACK,PROPERTY PRICES WILL TANK AND THEN STABILISE. THINGS WILL NEVER JUST FALL INTO YOUR LAP. YOU HAVE TO STRUGGLE AND SWEAT TO GET WHAT YOU WANT, OR BE CONTENT WITH WHAT YOU HAVE. THERE ARE NO FREE LUNCHES OR COCKTAILS OR DINNERS!! READ THE FINE PRINT. THERE'S ALWAYS A CATCH!!!

YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO SAY  "I'M SORRY" NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOUR PRIDE/EGO TAKE A BASHING. SOMETIMES THAT'S THE ONLY WAY OUT. AND IT SHOWS THAT YOU VALUE HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS ABOVE YOUR PRIDE. THERES NOTHING WRONG IN ADMITTING A MISTAKE. IF YOU ARE NOT MAKING MISTAKES, YOU ARE NOT LIVING!! SO LIVE MY DEAR FRIENDS, MAKE MISTAKES AND LEARN AND GROW FROM THEM.

STOP POINTING FINGERS/MAKING SCAPEGOATS/BLAMING OTHERS FOR WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIFE. THAT'S A DEAD END-IT WILL GET YOU NOWHERE. ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS AND FOR YOUR CHOICES. YOU MADE THOSE CHOICES-NOBODY FORCED THEM DOWN YOUR THROAT. BE THE LEADER OF YOUR OWN LIFE RATHER THAN ALWAYS PLAYING THE VICTIM. THE VICTIM IS POWERLESS BECAUSE HE HAS GIVEN HIS POWER TO SOMEONE ELSE TO EXERCISE OVER HIM. KEEP YOUR POWER IN YOUR OWN HAND.

YOU WILL ONLY GET AS MUCH AS YOU GIVE, EVENTUALLY. LIFE HAS A FUNNY WAY OF BALANCING THINGS OUT. PEOPLE WILL TREAT YOU THE WAY YOU ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE TREATED. ITS ALL ACTION AND REACTION. PLAIN PHYSICS! YOU TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO INTERACT WITH YOU. DO UNTO OTHERS WHAT YOU WANT DONE TO YOURSELF.

HOWEVER BAD THINGS MAY SEEM,THEY CAN GET WORSE. MAKE A LIST OF THINGS THAT YOU ARE BLESSED WITH AND ARE GRATEFUL FOR. YOU WILL BE PLEASANTLY SURPRISED, IT WILL RUN INTO PAGES AND WILL BE MUCH LONGER THAT YOU EVER THOUGHT POSSIBLE.

THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS THE BEST OPTION IN THE LONG RUN. THE TRUTH MAY HURT SOMEONE FOR A SHORT TIME, BUT A LIE CAN DESTROY TRUST AND CAUSE IRREPARABLE DAMAGE ( LITTLE,WHITE LIES HOWEVER DON'T COUNT!).

WORRYING IS THE BIGGEST WASTE OF TIME.IT'S TOTALLY UNPRODUCTIVE AND GETS YOU NOWHERE. THE MORE YOU WORRY, THE BIGGER THE PROBLEM BECOMES! FACE THE WORRY,TACKLE IT,TAKE ACTION. THAT'S THE ONLY WAY OUT!

ACCEPT PEOPLE FOR WHAT AND WHO THEY ARE. HOWEVER NOBLE/GOOD YOUR INTENTIONS MAYBE,YOU CAN NEVER CHANGE SOMEONE ELSE OR FORCE THEM TO CHANGE THEMSELVES. YOU CAN LEAD A HORSE TO WATER BUT YOU CANT MAKE HIM DRINK! SO LEAVE THE BLOODY HORSE ALONE! WHEN HES THIRSTY HE WILL DRINK!

"ZINDAGI NA MILEGI DOBARA" OR EVEN CHEESIER "KAL HO NA HO". SEIZE THE MOMENT MY FRIEND. MAKE THIS DAY COUNT. WHO KNOWS ABOUT TOMORROW! THE EARTH MAY COME UNDER ALIEN INVASION AND WE ALL MAY CEASE TO EXIST. LIVE LIFE TO THE FULLEST EACH AND EVERY DAY.ENJOY IT TO THE HILT! EAT,DRINK,MAKE MERRY,MAKE LOVE,SMILE AND BE HAPPY. ITS A BEAUTIFUL LIFE AND YOU ARE BLESSED TO LIVE IT. FACE CHALLENGES WHEN YOU COME ACROSS THEM,REMOVE PEOPLE OR ACTIONS THAT DRAG YOU DOWN, DO WHAT YOU LOVE AND IF YOU DO THAT YOU WILL AUTOMATICALLY DO IT WELL.

YOU WILL NEVER BE COMPLETELY READY FOR WHAT YOU WANT TO DO. THE TRICK IS JUST TO START IT ANYWAY, AND TO DEVELOP THE DISCIPLINE TO WORK AT IT CONSISTENTLY. TAKING BABY STEPS IN THE DIRECTION YOU WANT TO GO MEANS THAT YOU WILL EVENTUALLY GET THERE. LIKE I WANT TO BE A WRITER AND BE PUBLISHED SOME DAY-WHENEVER-SO I HAVE STARTED BY WRITING THIS BLOG. I MAY OR MAY NOT OFFICIALLY BECOME A WRITER OR GET PUBLISHED BUT AT LEAST I WOULD HAVE GIVEN IT MY BEST SHOT AND I WILL NEVER LIVE WITH REGRET THAT I DIDN'T TRY!!

ACCEPT THAT CHANGE IS INEVITABLE! IT IS GOOD FOR US BECAUSE IT SHOWS US NEW AVENUES AND NEW OPPORTUNITIES. ITS THE ONLY THING IN LIFE THAT'S CERTAIN. INITIALLY ALL CHANGE IS MET WITH RESISTANCE  AND WE DON'T LIKE IT AND FIGHT IT. WE ALWAYS GRAVITATE TOWARDS WHAT IS FAMILIAR BECAUSE FAMILIARITY KEEPS US FEELING SAFE BUT IT ALSO BREEDS COMPLACENCE. WE START STAGNATING WITHOUT CHANGE SO EMBRACE CHANGE WHOLEHEARTEDLY.

DON'T BE AFRAID TO DREAM. DREAMS CREATE THE VISION THAT GOVERNS THE STORY OF OUR LIFE. OUR DREAMS CREATE OUR FUTURE. DREAM BIG BECAUSE LIFE IS SHORT. "IF YOU AIM FOR THE MOON YOU WILL AT LEAST REACH THE PENTHOUSE"-MY QUOTE!

TIME IS THE MOST IMPORTANT RESOURCE IN THE WORLD. IT IS THE ONLY NON-RENEWABLE RESOURCE IN YOUR LIFE. CHOOSE WISELY HOW YOU SPEND YOUR TIME AND WITH WHOM YOU SPEND IT BECAUSE MONEY LOST CAN STILL BE EARNED BACK BUT TIME LOST IS TIME GONE FOREVER.

WHEN YOU WANT SOMETHING AND YOU ASK FOR IT, YOU WILL MORE LIKELY GET IT. DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK. WOULD LIKE TO QUOTE THE TATA SKY TAG LINE HERE "POOCH NE MEIN KYA JAATA HAI". WORSE CASE SCENARIO YOU WILL HEAR A "NO", SO WHAT? NO ONES GOING TO HANG YOU BY THE NECK FOR ASKING!!!

LAST BUT DEFINITELY NOT THE LEAST, LEARN TO SAY NO. IF YOU DON'T WANT TO DO SOMETHING-GO TO A PARTY,ACCEPT AN OBLIGATION,MEET SOMEONE-JUST SAY, "NO, THANK YOU". YOU DON'T OWE ANYONE AN EXCUSE OR EXPLANATION. MRS.B, ARE YOU LISTENING?